Q. Now that I am an "adult"
how do my friendships change?
A. Recognizing that adulthood can change relationships is important. Friendhips formed when you were younger may need to change when you enter the adult world. The way you relate with the people in your family, your workplace, your social contacts, and the opposite sex can change dramatically.
As an adult, your relationship with your parents will take on a new dimension. They may no longer being making all the decisions, and go from being the authority in what you do to counselors and advisors in your life. You may find that you enjoy just being able to visit more together, as the way you relate to each other assumes a more adult role from a child or adolescent relationship.
You
will find that friendships develop in the workplace also. Some
of these can be very casual, greeting each other at work and no
more, while some can become close ongoing friendships. when relating
with friends at work it is important to remember your first focus
when employed is working. Visit on breaks, lunches, or before
and after work, and concentrate on being a hard worker during
your work hours. If you find you have common interests, arrange
to have a social meeting away from the work environment. Be honest
and open, while also understanding that many work relationships
become transient with job changes, changes in role at work, and
relocations. Be a friend, and be a good hard worker too.
Your social circles may very well change greatly. You will be meeting new friends, and meeting their friends also! As we said earlier, some relationships will become very close, while others will be more casual. Becoming involved in community help can be a good way to meet friends too. Volunteering in schools or the library, nursing homes, or hospitals are good places to be a cheery face, and to make friends. If you are looking to meet people, become involved in community activities in your area, or perhaps social clubs like bowling, softball, etc. Spending time with people having like interests will make finding friends easier. Another way to meet new people is through local places of worship. Whatever your faith, you can find friends and like minded people in these places.
The final relationship
which can take shape in your independent adulthood would be dating
relationships. Understanding that these relationships take time
to develop, and taking the time necessary to build a 
better
relationship, is very wise. Don't be pressured into doing things
you believe are wrong or just not good for you, and realize that
these relationships can come and go until you find a person which
you compliment perfectly, and who feels the same way about you.
Be honest, be fun and cheerful, and don't try to rush into relationships.
Dating relationships can be very fulfilling, but are not necessary,
and forcing something to develop which isn't natural and easy
probably isn't the best way to approach a romantic relationship.
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